Musings from a night with Danielle LaPorte.....

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Last week I and many other women (and a few men) went to see Danielle La Porte talk at the Melbourne Convention Centre. The event was put on by the Wake Up Project. To  be honest, I didn't really know what to expect. I haven't followed DLP for long and  although I loved her upfront not apologies style. I hadn't read her books or really watched that many youtube videos.

What I got was a women who is passionate and funny and a lot of take aways, which I will of course share in a moment.

Firstly Clare Bowditch. Again I name I knew of, but hadn't really listened to. Are we sensing a theme here? It was kind of funny actually, i had seen her albums for years (I used to work at a place that sold CDs & DVDs) but had never actually played. 

Well the word that springs to mind when I think of her is delightful. Funny, self deprecating in a completely charming relatable way and of course talented. I'm sure many of you know this, but it was just joyous to hear her sing. What was also joyous was having Clare remind us that we can all sing. Then a room full of women (and a few lovely men) sang together. Now we all nervously looked at each other and some sang loud and some very shyly but the over all effect? Joyous. 

 

 

 

"All of Us can Sing"                                                                       - Clare Bowditch

 

Ok not all of us are going to make careers out of it or stand on stage to an audience, but that doesn't mean you can't enjoy it or do it often. Sing with your children. Sing at karaoke with friends. Sing along to the radio in your car. Sing in  group. Singing is powerful, divine, fun and available to all of us. 

Now Danielle La Porte is a women I would love to just hang out with. She seems down to earth and funny. I love that she does not apologise for her beliefs but is full of compassion. She reminded us that we often look for spiritual enlightenment, answers or just something outside of ourselves. We buy the latest books, stock up on crystals, see psychics and energy healers, go to retreats and workshop after workshop after workshop. Now, there is nothing wrong with doing any of these things. I do lots of them (and have pretty impressive crystal and essential oil collections) but they have to feel right for you and not because you are searching for a quick fix. The answers lie always with in you. To find that peace and connection (which is what we are really talking about when we talk about "enlightenment", well at least I am) you need to look within, without judgement and lots of compassion.

 

"The Best Self Help is Self Compassion"                                      - Danielle LaPorte

 

Now I'm not saying that is easy and that now that I have said this you are instantly going to "get it" and  become more compassionate right this second.  However I'm sure you know that we are way to hard on ourselves most (or all) of the time. Our Inner Critic or Ego can be super loud and super convincing. We hold ourselves up to some very high standards and when we don't meet that standard we beat ourselves up for it.

If a friend come to us with the same story, we would never say the things we say to ourselves to them. No, we show them compassion and support. This is what we need to start doing for ourselves. Take notice of the thoughts you are having and the way you talk to yourself. Then treat yourself as you would a loved on or a friend.

 

"Divine Feminine Is a Mindset and Not a Gender"                       - Danielle LaPorte

 

 This has been on my radar for quite a while now. The rise of the Divine Feminine. Maybe more accurately the awareness of it. Which is a wonderful thing and it is a beautiful energy. Maybe you have noticed it or heard people referring to it. I know I have noticed a big shift in the way a lot of companies approach their business.  For a long time, it's been a very masculine energy.

Now I don't mean this is bad. Not at all. The masculine energy (and I'm talking energy, not gender) helps us to get stuff done. It's logical and strategic. Divinine Feminie energy is softer, compassionate, powerful and much more intuitive. It helps us to be creative and connect. Think of the Yin and Yang symbol. You need both for balance and one is not better than the other. They support each other.

Now in this time when issues of gender inequality are right at the fore front, it would be easy to assume that Divine Feminine is something only women can tap into or describe a more spiritual or woo woo type of feminism. As Danielle La Porte talked about there are plenty of women who are stuck in a Patriarch Masculine mindset and lots of men who have a much more Divine Feminine mindset. It's not about which gender is better, it's about changing mindset to embrace both. 

 

IMAGE: Elin Bandmann Photography & Wake Up Project

IMAGE: Elin Bandmann Photography & Wake Up Project

"I cannot Fix all the Evils of the World, I can only be My Best."     - Danielle LaPorte

 

It is easy to become overwhelmed but everything that is going on in the world at the moment. I know at times I feel very small and not like I can do anything much to make a difference. When DLP said the above and talked about how being your best is really all you can do, it really resonated with me. Showing up, being your best self and coming from a place of love and joy if this is all you  do, you are doing a lot. The world needs people being their best.

It looks and feels different for everyone and it doesn't mean you need to sell up or donate everything you own or preach to people about how they aren't helping enough. It merely means doing the best you can, one day at a time if needed. Don't make this something else for you to beat yourself up about. Remember showing compassion to yourself? Imagine if everyone did that to themselves and others. Even if nothing else changed. Imagine the impact.

 

To sum up, my big take aways were:

  • We can all Sing

  • Self Care = Self Compassion

  • Divine Feminine is a mindset and not a Gender

  • Don't Focus on what you cannot fix, focus on how you can show up as your best self.

 

I really enjoyed listening to Danielle LaPorte and yes I did buy one of her books. (The Desire Map for those who are interested). I left feeling, well a bit like I needed to let it all sink in. The next morning though, I was feeling really inspired and couldn't stop writing. Definitely check out her work, if you haven't already, as well as The Wake Up Project. They have amazing events and speakers.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My New Years Rituals and Tips.

New Years Eve has been and gone and you have promised yourself that this year will be different.......

You are going to stick to the resolutions you made and have the most amazing year yet......however maybe a week later some of those "promises" you made to yourself ( late into the night after a few drinks) are looking a little shaky and you are already feeling like you have failed already.

Well lovely I feel you! I have absolutely been there. All the weight I was going to lose and the detoxes, diets, bettere job, eat better, go to the gym, drink less (guess how long that lasted!) all of those things that we beat ourselves up about (Hello Ego!) and then decide that with a new year we are just going to magically change everything. Not exactly  a recipe for success is it?

In the last few years I have started to change the way I do "New Years". I now have rituals that I do at the start of each year (usually within the first week or so) that help me to really focus on what I want out of the year. It has helped me to shift my focus and to be honest, when I looked back at what I had written down last year, I was actually shocked at how much I had managed to accomplish. And then some!

Here are my Favourite New Year's Rituals at the moment:

 

1. Reflect.

Too often we are way to eager to leave the year before behind us. Maybe it wasn't our best year or we are just excited to start the new one. Before we can move our focus forward though it's a really good idea to look over the year that has been. I usually start this process by looking at what I wrote at the start of the year. What goals did I achieve? What am I still working on? Which ones are no longer relevant? How did I want to feel?

You can Reflect on the year in as much or as little detail as you like. You might only ask yourself a few questions or you might have a deep writing session about it all. Once I've done this I like to close out the year. I do this by letting myself have a little rant on paper about anything I want about the year that's been (what sucked, didn't work, was frustrating etc) and then a little closing ritual - which is giving gratitude for the lessons that I learnt, saying good bye to the year that's been and welcoming the new.

 

2. Use a Goal Setting Planner.

This is probably my favourite thing to do at the start of the year now. There are heaps of different goal/year planners on the market, so you can definitely find one that you love. I personally love Leonie Dawson's Shining Year Life & Biz Planners, but like I said find one that you love and is going to help you with the type of goals you want to achieve.

Writing your goals and what you want to achieve down is a really powerful thing to do. You can do this without a planner if you prefer and just write down your intentions for the year. However, a planner is a really fun way to do this and can really help you to start figuring out the next steps to take.

3. Find a Word For the Year

Now this is big trend lately but for good reason. Finding a Power Word or word for the year helps you to focus on how you want to FEEL. Which is a much better way to approach things. Yeah yeah yeah, we all want to lose weight, be fitter etc and these aren't bad goals, but if we go a little deeper and look at what we want to feel when we hit these things, then it becomes more powerful and actually, easier to achieve. It is much easier to anchor into and keep. 

You can't "break" a word like you can break a resolution. The word (or words!) you choose is there to inspire you whenever you need it. Your word is your ally. It might infuse its wisdom through every single day of 2017. It's also likely you'll forget all about your word until that day in May when - BAM! - you remember exactly why you chose that word   -  Susannah Conway

I had two words last year - Strength and Joy. Strength to remind myself that I was capable and could face challenges. Joy to remind myself to enjoy the little moments and approach things more positively. Not sweat the small stuff basically. Everytime I looked at or reminded myself of those words, it helped to remember what was important to me and what I wanted to feel. When I look back on last year, I did some serious out side of comfort zone stepping and lots of little moments that could have been lost in the 'busyness' of the year.

Of course your word can be anything that feels meaningful to you. It could be an action type word or something a little gentler. What ever feels right for you and is going to help keep you motivated throughout the year. Don't forget to put it somewhere you will see it. Whether that's on your Vision Board if you have one or just a post it note stuck in your diary.

 

It's not too late either. Whether you are reading this in January or July, you can always re-focus and start again. In fact this year I'm setting things in 6 month blocks, so I don't feel to overwhelmed! 

The main thing with New Years Rituals is to make it something fun and that you look forward to.

If you would like some help with your New Year's rituals or just want to have a bit of a brains storm, then check out the In Tune package here. I'd love to help you get started on having an amazing year.

 

Cheers to an incredible 2017!

 

 

 

 

 

Intuition. What is it exactly?

Hello Lovely, 

If you have been following me on social media for a little while you will have probably noticed that there are a few words I use a lot. Higher Self, Inner Knowing, True/Authentic Self and Intuition.

 

What do they mean?

Intuition is “the ability to understand something instinctively, without the need for conscious reasoning” or knowing something without logic or proof. More simply, it is a gut feeling that you just can’t ignore. Higher Self, Inner Knowing and True or Authentic self are all different ways of referring to our Intuition. I often will say Higher Self and Intuition fairly interchangeably, but I am talking about the same thing. 

 

How do we tap into them?

You have most likely experienced listening to your intuition, even if you didn’t realise it at the time. A voice or feeling (often in the gut) that says “don’t get into that car” or maybe “drive a different way to work” and then you hear later that there was an accident the normal way that would of held you up. “Call a particular person” perhaps or “go to a particular event” etc. Whatever it is you will have had a feeling in your body that you just had to listen to. 

Sometimes it is the opposite, we don’t listen to our inner voice or our body and then something undesirable happens. Leaving us wishing we had just listened to that gut feeling.

 

Is Intuition the same as being psychic?

Intuition is different to having a psychic awareness or ability. Being Psychic is really receiving information, whether it is visions, voices or feelings, about other people’s lives or situations to relay to them. While your intuition might give you a feeling about a particular person, it won’t give you insight or visions about their lives. Intuition is an inner feeling or guide and is about you.

Intuition doesn’t really care that Sally’s late grandmother wants to say hello to her. It cares about helping you to be your authentic, beautiful self and to make choices that are safe and right for you.

 

How do I know that I’m not just making stuff up in my head and that it really is my Intuition that I am hearing?

To understand what is Intuition we need to look at Intuition’s companion, The Ego or Inner Critic. Ego also gets referred to as our Inner Mean Girl Or Guy, so if you think of The Ego as the Inner Mean Girl, then our Intuition is our Inner Support Girl. Everything that is Intuition always comes from a place of pure love. It does not judge and it wants you to be your best self.

The Ego on the other hand comes from a place of fear and judgement. The Ego wants things to stay the same as it feels safe where it is. Even if your Intuition is trying to tell you that maybe something isn’t a good idea, it isn’t going to put you down or come from that place of fear while doing so. 

 

Intuition can often be felt in the body. It is where we get the saying “Gut Feeling” because this is often where we feel it. However it is good practice to pay attention to how our whole body is feeling and this can help to differentiate between what is Ego and what is Intuition. 

 

If an idea pops into your head how does that feel, for example? Maybe it feels exciting or you feel curious about it before the Ego steps in with feelings of doubt and so you then ignore or don’t follow that idea. For me I often feel when a situation isn’t right in my stomach, but when I have a fear that is Ego based rather than safety based then I will feel it in my chest or throat instead.

 

So how can I tap into and listen to my Intuition more? 

Having a regular meditation practice can really help us to tune in to our Intuition. It helps to calm the mind, quieten the Ego and gives space for us to pay attention to it and seperate out what is Ego.

Taking a few deep breaths when we start to feel or think about something can help to clear our mind and focus on what our bodies are feeling.

Tuning into our bodies and becoming aware to what they are trying to tell us (don’t worry I’ll talk about this in another post). Often the messageor feeling will keep coming up until we pay attention them.

 

A big part of listening to our Intuition is trusting. Trusting what we are getting through our thoughts and feelings. Trusting because sometimes we can’t see the bigger picture or the how of things, but our intuition/Higher Self still knows the way. 

 

To help listen to our Intuition we need to:

  1. Get quiet and allow ourself to feel what is happening in our bodies.
  2. Have a daily mediation practice
  3. Know that all guidance comes from a place of love.
  4. Trust that those reoccurring ideas and feelings are something we need to stop and pay attention to,

 

 

It takes time and practise to get really in tune with your Intuition, but trust me, once you start you will wonder how you ignored it for so long. Maybe you have started but need a bit more guidance and support? 

 

You can always contact me here to talk more about how you can tap into and follow your Intuition.

Welcome lovely!

Hello Beautiful, I'm so excited you are here!

First official blog post for my website and honestly it has been a crazy journey to get here. A part of me is like "Who are you? What the Hell are you doing?!". The other part  because  is just like "Ah. We have arrived".

I'm so excited to share my journey with you and to connect. This year has been beyond anything I could have imagined. I started off by study with Beautiful Coaching Academy and I as I write this I am about to finish up my Equine Assisted Learning Training. A year of pushing myself past (well past) my comfort zones and meeting amazing, inspiring women ( and men!). I'm not there yet, but I can feel myself starting to build a life I love and is aligned with me. 

I've got some amazing things planned for next year too. ( Watch this space!)

All because I followed the breadcrumbs. The feelings and hints my intuition & heart gave me. Guess what you can do this too. 

That is what I want to create here and I'm so glad you are here sharing the journey with me. I'll be sharing all I know, my experiences, thoughts and musings. I'm hoping to create resources and all you need to help you explore Intuition, spiritual curiosity and personal development. It will be practical, easy to understand and probably accompanied by a good glass of sparkling! 

No more holding back Lovely. For either of us. 

Aimee xx